I thought it was pretty darn cute and, to be honest, I was . Some parents want their children to be physically/emotionally flawless. Continue to seek self-improvement and one day we can pass through this. they are the only things i would care for. These children often feel insignificant and totally unappreciated. now i just have depression wherever i go. DON'T LISTEN to SMALL MINDED people! It is FREE! Your father is insecure as he is threatened by your independence. They are grossly unhappy, yearning for what might have been. (i'm the eldest) i also remember trying to open up to my mother but that didn't end well either. Of course in the darkest moments, you think of hurting others. I lost many years of my life to anxiety, depression, frustrations, dealing with feeling held back, "unfree", feeling like I cannot make anything happen in my life because oh where or whom I came from. If they do not receive praise, oftentimes they will not achieve what they might have. They assert that such behavior should be a given. My meds have stabilized my mood. my father did & still does ALL OF THESE . Real Example: We got our grades of the Chemistry exam today, i read the question wrong, i read Beta Particles instead of Alpha Particles, but i answered the question right if it was talking about Beta Particles so basically i answered it right, in a way. They want to give you a better future than they have. Both my parents preferred me to work in any job, while I desperately tried to work out how to go beyond that; nobody in our extended family has a degree. Family consists of people who LOVE & RESPECT each other. Support the choices they make and the lifestyles they want to live. Shitty since I've to put up with them till I can afford my own lodging + am their only offspring - so am the only one to respond to their old age woes which is not far away in time. Just because a child does not have the same characteristics as their parents does not mean they are a failure that needs correcting. Second therapist referred me to the psychologist. Parents try to discipline children for their own good. I sat in my room crying until i eventually ran out of tears or dad came back from home and hugged me. Anyone else would give up and leave, or at least up to this point everyone has but her. I thought studying neuroscience was a amazing thing. For those who are like me feeling depressed and helpless sometimes, you are not alone. I had two older Bros, the middle one yr older than me the oldest, 5 yrs older. I experience a few highs but many low points in life. No more getting grounded or bitched at etc. Then she launched into a story about one father who recently planted himself in her classroom during one of her lesson planning periods to complain about his son's mediocre grades. There are parents who do not believe in praising because they believe that it softens and spoils kids and will make them conceited and think too highly of themselves. Question: After not being able to date and having your critical narcissistic mother and kind/go-along father force your career, marrying a violent man, would you say my problems stem from low self-esteem? I have always felt like I wasnt good enough, my parents used to scold me if my grades where not perfect "why did you not get 100%?" I have only myself to blame for the bad because I didnt work hard enough. Im sick and tired. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on June 13, 2018: This article is right on point. I am probably doing everything possible to get better (at my expense - if it would do any good to sue my parents I would). Kids reveal their parents care more about academic achievement than kindness . I'm super curious and I just want to know the why but then I am always talking back. They contend that following the consensus offers a sense of belonging and security. So everything mom say IS, WILL BE right. Children of overprotective parents don't develop the skills to succeed in life. I'm gonna turn 30 in a few years, and my relationship with my parents has continued like this for what feels like an eternity. It is only a few evolved, enlightened parents who view & treat their children as individuals. To pigeonhole anyone's intellectual ability based entirely upon their GPA often creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. quick info, i am autistic and i cannot work under pressure. Last report card, I got a C in math. Like the indent of my life on the footprint on the earth.. She constantly tells me I'll probably never make it in the music business and to focus on my office job. My mam blamed them for making me not study (even though I was) and she often didnt allow me to leave the house. I can't even have a sleepover. "She's rude, and who does she think she is thinking she can talk back to us like that. My mother never was used to hugs or praising. its just too much, i cant go on living like this and i get frequent suicidal thoughts. Parents expect many things from their offspring, but the most valuable thing in their eyes is good grades. Then they learned the truth. But remember that they care about your education because they care about you and your future. Question: Why does my father point out all my flaws? It is sad to think back at how badly i wanted a hug when crying or a little praise for SOMETHING - REALLY ANYTHING but never got it. I get a 92 and she gets mad at me. only school and then home. The scouts and cadets did instill survival instincts into me and in the moments I was free when I was younger you would just see me sprinting bare foot through the forest like some Scrawny tiny white tarzan. But I've started going to the gym and learning about how to look after your body with real foods. I hope Killing Myself would be better than living in meaningless life. Do they want to live through you-you have to live YOUR OWN life, not THEIRS. Preach a positive mental approach to dealing with failures and mistakes. I'm doing this for me. They believe that by comparing one child to another, the "errant" one will improve. These are the books we're crushing on this winter, 6 valuable lessons we learned from the Frog and Toad books, The difference between young adult and new adultand why it matters, Your step-by-step schedule for the ultimate New Year's Eve, 5 holiday dessert recipes you need to start making every year, 5 things to consider in your college search, Affordable birthday gifts your bestie will love, How to *actually* get stuff done when you're tired. I'll be joining Jujitsu next once I take my health back. Often, the comparison does the opposite. Maybe is because Im from a hispanic culture, but to me, parents are the absolute law. I know my parents love me and they are trying to provide me with the best life they can but they are so controlling. "He just kept saying over and over: 'In our family, that's not acceptable.' I didn't know what to say to him. I'm so shy but I refuse to blame my parents because they thought they were helping me. There are some parents who believe that their word is law and etched in stone, and that might equals right. , my mum used to and still criticises her weight even though she looked fine, I dont know if that caused me to be extremely uncomfortable with gaining any weight. Strict parents, They are trying to shape me into what they want me to be, How to deal with teenagers?! God bless. Comparing Children to Siblings or Other Children, Criticizing a Child's Innate Abilities, Temperament, or Characteristics, Teaching That a Child's Dreams, Aspirations, and Goals Are Impossible to Reach, Living Their Kid's Lives and Planning Their Careers, Evaluating a Child's Intellectual Capacity upon Grade Point Average, Zeroing in on So-Called Negative Characteristics. If the child believes that they are stupid because they are a C student, they will become a low achiever throughout life, no matter what their human potential is. I believe I have come to the point of not feeling like I belong and dare I say hopeless, somehow I find consolation that others have gone through this too, I wish you all the best and we will make it out of this time together! Shes caused me to have depression and take part in self harm. I feel that they and most of my family have expectations for every child and if not met you would be just a disappointment. They don't even care and they yell at me, telling me that i'm being dramatic, calling the scars on my arm "stupid", and telling me to my face, "If you commit suicide, we wont attend your funeral because we would be too embarrassed to have such a stupid & useless daughter." I feel like if I'm not serving someone, my life has no purpose. over a year ago. They want kids who they can easily control, and they are highly threatened by those who exhibit a more independent nature. How can I help her get out of this situation, and leave her parents for good? But it's my calling in life and I'm very good at it. HubPages is a registered trademark of The Arena Platform, Inc. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. the only way I can get an 90% is if I get 100% on the exam and science is my worst subject but "my sister did IB so I should be able to succeed in academic because I am naturally smarter than her but she works harder". He should have taken this up with his wife! There is a great deal of value in recognizing when you make a mistake and then correcting it. There is no need to take a negative tone when speaking to a child about the mistakes they have made. But I runs in the family I guess. I just want to cry most of the time. They only care about my grades not my mental health! :). Not being in your child's life can greatly impact there self-esteem and self worth, it can make them feel like they're not worth anything, even your time. Treated me very well and gave me lots. Often, the comparison does the opposite. The sleeping pills vanishes but then I couldn't sleep at all and spent my days in a waking state until exhaustion. Things got progressively worse as years went by and I got siblings. So fuck it, lol. An extremely conscientious A student of average ability may have to study all night to obtain those A's while a C student of above-average ability may be bored with school and have a more relaxed attitude towards their studies. Your father wants you to be subordinate to him in order to elevate his low self-esteem. I have a stored temperdue to being suppressed and snubbed from even showing negative irritation, get blamed for everything they do or that is not of their limited paradigms, heavily criticized for not wearing what clothes they got me (out of "love") or for keeping even a 2 day stubble. It's so frustrating and demoralizing. I've had a single person stick with me for the last ten years. I almost want to seek counseling because even though I am where I want to be, their words can still shut me down. She always calls me worthless and useless and occasionally she even hits me. What iconic squad matches you and your besties? All three of us are crippled to think on our own and in deep resentment and depression. I literally cry when I see ppl who aren't better than me sing and claim they are but I can't talk back because I've never sang and I'm shy. "Actually, it's the parents," she confessed with a wince. I never had much mentors in my life, my parents weren't much of the type to look up to. Both my parents never had caring conversations either, and didnt care if I need help, didnt care about my feelings or thoughts. I did an IQ test at 17, and was told my IQ was 158. Question: I think my parents wanted a perfect child instead they got me. How can I explain them that we are modern teenagers that want to have fun! Parents often believe it's their responsibility to motivate their kids to care about their grades. Teach them to enjoy the process and love the commitment it takes to accomplish their dreams. I think part of me is always looking to die. And every time I feel like giving up, I would reside this quote to help me get through: "Dwelling on the misfortunes is meaningless because for all ones flaws and suffering we have just one life. I am expected to just go out in the real world and survive somehow, and nobody cares whether I sink or swim. Answer: Discuss the matter with a relative & perhaps report your mother to a human services agency which deals with child abuse. Your father is abusive & his behavior is inexcusable. How should I react here? Again, parents need to check their egos and loosen up a bit. It costs quality money to get quality help. What can I do? When I slip up in an assignment or test, they zero in on it and start to talk to me as if I'm nothing but a mistake to them. I thought they were going to kill me. Putting money into savings for acting school or classes. They believe individualities are flaws that need correction. However, they are doing irreparable damage and making their kids quite dependent and indecisive regarding the simplest life choices. You contact their professors, because you didn't like a grade/want to ask for clarification on an assignment/want to ask for an absence to be excused/want to ask for an extension on an assignment due date. Adults are just perverts to kids. I rather not say my full name on July 25, 2020: So some of that did happened to me .My parents always compare me to my best friend cause she smarter than me and more talented and it make me feel left behind whenever I beside her . Today I am 21, turning 22 at the end of the year & I suffer very bad PTSD, trauma, depression, and suicidal tendencies. now i am grown i wonder how can you do that to someone you love talkless your own Child - The Other Day my own father asked me WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE , Talking about my first girlfriend and how i failed - What do you think you have achieved !! Thank you for your constant support and engagement! Not just kids but teachers and teacher assistants too. You should either discuss this matter w/a trusted relative. Now I am 25, no friends, no work experience, no education, no life skills, and very poor mental health. im in high school, i have all a's and one b. they act like its the end of the fucking world whenever i get anything less than a 100%, and i cant stand it anymore. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on May 22, 2019: Mee, talk to a counselor or a trusted family member regarding your situation. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on June 20, 2018: Get help & DISASSOCIATE yourself from your family. You can't learn if you don't try. I then became a parent while my mom went out partying and drinking. You and your mother need joint counseling. Meantime, I performed exceptionally at primary school, but my mother said it was only because I had dumb kids in my year. I'm turning 22 & I'm not even allowed to have sleepovers or go for sleepovers. They often attempt to gear their children into "more realistic" careers and aspirations, ones that are "workable" and "secure." They feel powerless and that others are more powerful than they are. But of course my older sister and my mum constantly shout at me saying that i am going to fail all my exams, that i am hopeless and a disgrace. Parents care more about their child's grades than the child itself. Parents refuse to acknowledge how insidious comparing children are for many children are emotionally, psychologically, & even psychically damaged by comparing them to other children. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on February 28, 2018: Mike, discuss your issue w/a trusted guidance counselor, relative, or a clergyperson. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on April 01, 2018: Get counselling & LEAVE THEM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. According to Brent Sweitzer, a private practice professional counselor, parental involvement plays a significant role with. When i showed them my grades mom was like "meh.. You were always that good" but dad was proud of me. Disassociate from your mother. My mom doesn't value creativity or musical talent, so I'm forever a disappointment. Parents should strive to take their own egos out of the equation and instead focus on what the child needs. Answer: It is called denial. And this country has become a country of snowflake children. Hard to tell what could be helpful so far. My parents are annoying and overpowering horrible people. So marks for school always has to be 90% and up and nothing less. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on August 03, 2018: Please seek counselling. Guess! Any responsibilities they didn't want fell on me. She really really wanted an extremely smart kid. I knew that my mam wasnt the best but I think I really understand it now. But for this a guiding hand makes a huge impact. Whenever I try to talk to them about how I feel, they yell at me. If they aren't receptive, discuss the matter with a trusted relative. I got nothing but positive words. Smothering your child will lead to resentment later in life, and it is not a healthy way to raise children. Ever since i was a child i had developed depression because i was always in such a negative space. For more on Carol Weston, visit her website:carolweston.comor like herFacebook page. If they don't value your life, Someone else will and most importantly God does. Parents often believe that if they extol the positive characteristics of siblings and other children to their so-called errant child, their own child will improve. Once she told me you will never be a boy so stop pretending to be one. Question: Why do my parents always scold me about my scars when I'm trying my best to remove them? I don't know what's wrong with me. I've tried reaching out to people for help. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 03, 2020: Talk to a trusted relative about this. Disassociate yourself from this family & find people who respect/love you for what you are. You should first discuss this matter to your father; however, if he isn't receptive, discuss the matter w/a trusted relative or better yet, a counselor. They just might be unaware of what is going on with you. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 20, 2018: Are you the oldest of a large/very large family? kindergarten girlfriends. You have to start preparing for highschool and I am in 6th grade! In these parents' purview, their children are incapable of doing anything for themselves. To order Carol's newest book,Speed of Life, clickhere. I started before noon and it was dark when I had to stop. My parents & brothers even told me I deserved to be raped & that me getting raped was 'my fault'. But for me I can't keep up with that and my average is an 85% which is not the best. I feel much better letting some of my problems out OvO. They want their children to succeed in life and in their vision, only good grades lead to a successful life. Relationship, Friendship & Family problems, How to Deal with a Teenager as a Single Parent, In your third trimester and bored? my parents only care about my grades. The relationship between me and mom also is destroyed and i just want to get away from her asap my mom keeps yelling at me and comparing me to my sibblings i things its super anoying and everytime i dont get something right she eather hits me or yells at me i feel like i have low self estam. Published: 12:19 EST, 25 June 2014 | Updated: 16:39 . God forbid that they should make mistakes. Internal beauty is far more important than outer beauty. I strongly agree with all except the last one. In fact insecure people are the worst to have around. Ooof, I'm 26 and this read like the story of my life. If your parents are not receptive to counselling, go by yourself. She was independent at 14, working during the day and attending school at night, and had to fight for every opportunity to get ahead in life, which she did. Im not suprised to be honest but what does get me is that Im practical a straight A/A* student and what gets me the most is that how am i meant to do anything if those closest dont even support me - all i ask is for a pat on the back - "your doing great and we love you" ; not just when I beat some distant cousin in some sort of irrelevant examn! But this psychologist stayed long enough for me to explain what I felt was important. Answer: There are parents who view their children as an extension of them instead of the individuals that they are. For them, the mantra is that their children are to obey and nothing else. It didn't work - I am in my 40s and she still tells me I am too weak and a disappointment - but it was her way of showing us love and, besides it is a fair criticism so I don't take offence. No counselor/psychologist. It's sad that for a while I liked about where I worked and what I made. Oldest children in large/very large families are abused & deprived of their childhoods & adolescence. The violence at home had gotten so extreme I'd vomit before class so my stomach would be in less knots. These parents contend that they own their offspring. Conformity is a necessary thing in certain cases but parents should work on helping their child develop their unique talents while respecting the norms of society. With my dad everything always has to be his choice and both of them push me so hard that sometimes I cry. They took possession of her Xbox, limiting how often she is on it all because they don't want her to get "addicted". They still came in first, they didn't need me anyways. head wounds ! They're not there to make your life worse. Your parents & brothers are toxic-GET AWAY FROM THEM! They're gonna make more money than me." She remembers everything I ever did in my life that she didn't like and throws it back at me. There are individuals who aspire to uncommon goals and unique careers. But nope not to them. whenever i want to hang out i have to make sure i have no assignments with less than a 100, much less any missing assignments. Teach your child that no one is flawless and that everyone makes mistakes. They care about your grades because they want a good future for you. He thought I was just a real close friend of the family! anything I did wrong, i was ordered to strip naked and get beaten by the belt. They will always choose the path of the least resistance all through life. i would really appreciate the feedback and the suggestions of what i should do Etc.. umm, here's what i did, im old though and idk if you can still get away with this. Direct a movie and we'll give you an iconic film to binge this weekend. I think it is important to consider that oftentimes parents were not ideally parented themselves and deserve some empathy and understanding too. She once read my diary which I wrote about how I feel unappreciated, useless because of all the things she said to me. I'm 34 and have literally just developed a sense of real control over my thoughts and feelings, to help guide myself from this point onwards. Every time I expressed an opinion I was ridiculed by the whole family. My parents were quite pushy about grades with my brothers. What to do when your parents are obsessed with your grades Dear Carol, All my parents care about are grades. For examle, exams are coming up and right now I have a 88% average in science and I want it to be a 90% at least but my mom is making me stress even more and my dad doesn't even ask or he would too. Such parents demoralize their children in one way or another. last bit would be that my mother wouldn't praise any of the good i did, she would be so uninterested that slowly i just stopped caring for my family's approval while also stopping what i loved doing. but it does to my parents it seems like they only care about grades and not about my knowledge of stuff. My Parents Don't Like my Partner (Boyfriend or Girlfriend), High Pressure for High Grades Leads to High Kids, Effective Ways to Talk to Your Kids so They will Listen, Boosting Your Child's Performance: Encouraging Self-Motivation, Why You Need To Sleep On It: Sleep Helps Your Brain Consolidate New Memories, Why Kids Don't Tell Their Parents They Are Being Bullied, And How To Spot The Signs. Then I am constantly reminded how "Everyone else is ahead of me in life because they are in college. I went to university despite her and worked in the IT sector. I'm just frustrated. 1 Reply More posts from r/SuicideWatch 394K subscribers No_Investigator_7700 7 days ago It's also about enjoying the process. Don't do it!Don't listen to those thoughts. This past week, I've never felt so deflated, I'm practically ok with dying. But would be a beauty if I had confidence. There also where a lot of little other events between mom and me that resulted in me feeling like shit all day and now that my dad moved out as they divorced the one person who cares about me is not here as often anymore. This results in a child's poor self image. I cant wait until I get to leave but Ive still got to wait another 5 years. Just makes me sick. Demeaning and comparison by parents is so much that most of the kids starts doing what others are doing rather then choosing their own profession. Set some boundaries and steer your child in a direction you'd like to see them go in but let them have some independence. (My parents make me feel dumb.). They should be encouraged. i also struggle heavily with deadlines and stress. and im scared to confront. My mother was given away by her parents as an infant, then taken back at ten years of age when she was old enough to work and be considered useful. I'm 29 this year, having suicidal thoughts become normal to me till one day I decided to become my own self-motivator. Find other relatives who love & care for you. He's Spanish and Mexican. Tell them you want to hear when theyre proud, not just when theyre disappointed. Part of the gym is a mental component, I don't think I'd be able to do this any other way. every single conversation turns into grades somehow, and that isn't even an exaggeration. I do everything my homework I go to tutoring, I even prepare to exam that is gonna be 4 years later! Those who are constantly compared to others have a diminished sense of individuality and ultimately come to believe that they are worthless. Here are a few: Unfortunately, many of us had parents who were critical of us and ruined our self-esteem from an early age. My dad never molested me. and if you ask me.. i dont care as much about grades, for me.. if i know that im good in that specific subject but i still get low grades it doesnt really matter to me. I am perfectly happy with what I do. Both my parents are like this. To Everyone being castigated , Blindsided . My experience is coming from an alcoholic home and ending up with C-PTSD. Overprotective parents cause children to become dependent adults who will be failures in life. 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